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13 Signs You're in Love

February 14, 2014 By:

A scientific study led by Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and one of the leading experts on the biological basis of love, have revealed that the brain's "in love" phase is a unique and well-defined period of time, has pinpointed thirteen symptoms you display when being  “In Love”. (

When you are in love:


  1. Your beloved is special and you have no eyes for anybody else. There is a single-mindedness which is the result of elevated levels of central dopamine, the chemical involved in focus.
  2. Your focus accentuate your beloved’s positive qualities and trivial events and objects reminds you of them. In other words "She/He's perfect". The focused attention is a result a spike in central norepinephrine the chemical associated with increased memory.
  3. There is emotional and physiological instability that also sets in when one is in love. The following fluctuating emotions are experienced when you are in love: exhilaration, euphoria, increased energy, sleeplessness, and loss of appetite, trembling, a racing heart and accelerated breathing, as well as anxiety, panic and feelings of despair when your relationship suffers even the smallest setback. Drug addicts have similar mood swings. According to Dr Fisher when in-love people are shown pictures of their loved ones, it fires up the same regions of the brain that activate when a drug addict takes a hit. Being in love, researchers say, is a form of addiction.
  4. Overcoming something traumatic or a challenge intensifies the romantic relationship. Research shows that when a reward is delayed, dopamine-producing neurons in the mid-brain region become more productive.
  5. You spend more than 85 percent of their waking hours musing over their loved one. It presents as intrusive and obsessive thinking. This state of affairs is a result from decreased levels of central serotonin in the brain. (Obsessive-compulsive disorder is treated with serotonin-reuptake inhibitors.)
  6. You regularly exhibit signs of emotional dependency on the relationship, including possessiveness, jealousy, fear of rejection, as well as separation anxiety.
  7. You seek ways to develop an emotional union and day dream about “together forever".
  8. You tend to feel the other persons pain as your own and will sacrifice anything for that person
  9. There is a marked tendency to do things differently. You priorities shift, your style might change, mannerisms change, habits and values adjust to align with your beloved.
  10. You develop sexual desire for your beloved which is coupled with possessiveness, exclusivity and jealousy. This possessiveness is thought to have evolved so that an in-love person will coerce his or her partner to reject temptation, insuring that the relationship is not interrupted until conception has occurred.
  11. The scientists have determined that while the desire for sexual union is important, the craving for emotional union takes precedence.  64 percent of people in love (both sexes) disagreed with the statement, “Sex is the most important part of my relationship with [my partner]."
  12. Fisher and her colleagues found that individuals who report being "in love" commonly say their passion is involuntary and uncontrollable.
  13. Typical of scientists, they found it necessary to include point number 13, and I quote: “13.  Unfortunately, being in love usually doesn't last forever. It's an impermanent state that either evolves into a long-term, co-dependent relationship that psychologists call "attachment," or it dissipates, and the relationship dissolves. If there are physical or social barriers inhibiting partners from seeing one another regularly — for example, if the relationship is long-distance — then the "in love" phase generally lasts longer than it would otherwise.”

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